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This is a must-listen for both men and women looking to feel more, longer and better orgasms.
Today’s episode will completely transform your understanding of what “coming” is:
Did you know that there are many types of orgasms for women?
And did you know that men can orgasm without ejaculating… and vice versa?
Love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara challenge common beliefs around clitoral stimulation and vibrators, sharing their personal experience and tantric journey towards full body orgasms that can last for over 10 minutes – for both men and women.
Got your attention? Press play to learn a few tricks you can use in your next intimate encounter to give and experience a level of intimacy (and pleasure) that you didn’t think possible.
 
TIME STAMPS
01:00 Let's talk about orgasms
01:22 How many types of orgasms are there?
04:34 Female orgasms
07:12 The "spasm orgasm" is the enemy
08:17 Leave the clit alone!
09:55 Vibrators simply desensitize you
11:33 What are you doing to me?
13:52 How true presence gives a massively enhanced sexual experience
17:23 You DON'T NEED to give an orgasm to each other
18:50 The trick is to NOT THINK about what happens next
21:22 Best practices for men
21:36 The non-ejaculatory practice
22:45 How men can achieve longer, deeper orgasms
25:40 The secret to satisfy a woman in bed
26:18 Your sexual energy is the Life Force that drives your life
26:37 What is our primal need?
28:01 How you can support each other and both feel more pleasure
29:37 The secret club of pleasure
32:45 Remember to give yourself some slack
33:21 The 21 days challenge
34:16 Do this to cure premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction
35:46 What to do when he wants more sex than her
37:11 If you are her
37:28 If you are him
37:51 How you can better communicate your needs
40:14 I feel pain during intercourse
42:02 How to get a mind-blowing orgasm (recap)
42:24 1. Stop stimulating the clit
42:32 2. Stop ejaculating (or practice separating it from your orgasm)
42:56 3. Try the 21 days challenge
43:21 4. Drop the blaming
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Get the book: 50 Misconceptions Of Sex by Alexa Vartman
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The 21 days challenge by The New Tantra
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Changing gears with Season 2, love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara explain in very simple terms the concept of relationship Polarity, and the importance of balancing the masculine and feminine energies that you input in a relationship - regardless of your gender.
They show how a polarity imbalance often leads to conflict, blaming, and general relationship unhappiness and unease.
In this episode, they offer insights and provide practical tips for how couples can bring harmony back to their relationships. By stepping back, showing vulnerability, and understanding each other's perspectives, couples can navigate their differences and bring back the “Lover’s Energy” that initially brought them together.
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TIME STAMPS
00:34 What We Prepared For You In Season 2
01:38 Let's Talk About Polarity in Relationships
02:31 What Women Blame Men For
03:38 What Men Blame Women For
06:27 Often Men Feel Powerless
10:36 Do We Both Have Masculine and Feminine Traits?
13:41 Both Partners Need To Contribute To The Masculine/Feminine Balance In The Couple
15:25 How Do We (Re)establish Polarity?
17:55 Restore The "Lover's" Energy
24:20 Why It's So Important To Show Vulnerability To Your Partner
25:06 What Goes Wrong In Relationships When You Hide Your Vulnerable Side
28:31 What He Needs To Do To Make Her Feel Safe
32:38 What Is Real Masculinity Today?
36:40 It's Difficult To "Just Receive"
38:13 Connect With Your Feminine Side (regardless of your gender)
43:00 How Do We Connect Deeper?
43:17 1. It's A Dance For Two
43:37 2. Listen To This With Your Partner
44:47 4. Acknowledge That All Emotions Are Valid
45:17 5. Temporarily Suspend Your Belief
45:38 6. Ask Yourself: What Am I Really Yearning For?
46:00 7. Make Space To Receive From Your Partner
46:44 8. Don't Apologise For Your Emotions
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Link to Alexa Vartman’s book that we recommend on the show - “50 Misconceptions Of Sex”
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Guess what! We’ve been live for 6 months already, and we have a big surprise coming up for you!
We are closing out Season 1 of the Deeper Sex Podcast to come back with Season 2 and offer something even more exciting and useful to you and your lover, in and out of the bedroom.
We believe that sex should not be the driver of arguments and unhappiness for a couple. Nor should it be taboo. 
We have witnessed, tried and tested on our own skin how it can be used to heal from trauma, fears, and to grow. 
What's coming:
We are taking the intimacy and sacred sexuality practices that have completely revolutionised our way of loving, and are putting them into very simple practical terms for you so, that everyone can apply and practice them in their own bedroom.
If this is calling you, join our next workshop.
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Meanwhile, don’t miss:
 
>> Our fav books
“50 Misconceptions Of Sex” by Alexa Vartman
“Wild Nights” by David Deida
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>> Catch up on these episodes
How To Be Sexually “Open” Even If You’re Monogamous | Feeling Free:
Learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner. Listen on Apple or Spotify.
 
There’s No Shame In “Dirty” Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Taboos into Passion:
Learn about how to share sexual fantasies with your lover, overcoming fear, shame and taboos. Listen on Apple or Spotify
 
From Failed-Marriage Misery to Cosmic Sex: How we did it (via ENM and sex positive spaces):
Learn more about the hosts’ conservative backgrounds and how they “fell” into the amazing, sexually liberated world of Consensual Non Monogamy. Listen on Apple or Spotify
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TIME STAMPS
01:54 You Helped Us Grow
03:25 Deeper Sex Content In Season 2
04:16 Sex At the Intersection Between Sexuality, Curiosity, Healing And Personal Growth
05:25 A Surprise For You
07:52 10 Prompts To Start Deeper Conversations With Your Partner
08:15 Your Reading List to Get Ready For Season 2
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Will and Chiara are interviewed by Human Design coach Adriana to explore how they transformed their lives through sexual exploration and liberation. 
They’ve made intimacy coaching their life’s purpose, because there’s so much fun and sex to be had in life, that everyone should be able to experience it! 
They talk about their journey of following their hearts and intuition, instead of conforming to what others expected. They highlight how their union is always of the utmost priority, above and beyond anything and anyone else.
On a spontaneous trip, they discovered the world of New Tantra and realized that that was “the code” - the language - for how they had been connecting all along. They found themselves into deeper and deeper sexual connections and an incredibly fulfilling sex life that massively influenced their business and their daily life… from miserable to super fun and exciting.
The secret to all this? Curiosity and… well, tune into the episode to find out!
Whether you’re a man or a woman wondering if there’s more to coupledom, or maybe bored in a sexless marriage, you too can go from an average relationship and a “middle-aged” sex life to an incredible connection with your partner, having mind-blowing, hours-long orgasmic marathons.
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To learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner, check out our episode on Apple or on Spotify.
And… don’t miss this book on the topic! “Wild Nights” by David Deida 
(this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you)
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To learn more about how you can work with and accept your body image, check out this episode on Apple or on Spotify
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TIME STAMPS
01:18 Meet Adriana, our Human Design Coach
02:26 Download Our Free Guide
03:02 How Will and Chiara Help Clients Have Better Romantic Relationships
06:22 How The Power of Intuition Got Chiara The Amazing Husband She Has
09:55 Why Intimacy Coaching
14:32 Why We Decided To Explore Ethical Non-Monogamy
18:59 This Could Be Your Community Too
21:29 The Deeper Sex Podcast In The Making
22:42 We Explored The Swinging Community But It Was Not For Us
24:04 From Swinging to New Tantra
25:26 Fantasy vs. Reality
25:50 Are You One Of The People We Can Help?
26:13 Who We Want To Help: Meet Our Friends John And Jane
34:45 Accepting Yourself And Your Body Image
40:43 How To Use Curiosity To Overcome Fear
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How open(-minded) are you, really? And how "free" do you feel?
Our biggest fear is not being loved. And fears keep us stuck in the comfort zone. But what happens when we suspend fear?
While reflecting on our peculiar summer, we explain how openness, curiosity, and feeling comfortable in your own body can bring you a deeper sense of connection and, ultimately, freedom.
There's a different flavour when you meet people who are willing to share themselves and their stories - who are unapologetically themselves and in their body.
If you're one of those people that feel stuck and just dream of being free (from whatever) but don't know how, you might want to listen to this. The whole conversation is a beautiful metaphor for how life can be lived.
!! Don’t miss our book recommendation at the end !!
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TIME STAMPS
1:32 Our Mission Is To Help People Open To Love
03:04 A Music Festival As An Open Love Experience
03:50 Openness + Nakedness = Freedom
07:11 What You Wouldn't Expect About Being Naked
08:51 Feeling Comfortable vs. Feeling Confident
09:46 It's Not About You, It's About Them
13:10 You Can Be Monogamously Open
15:23 When Your Husband Shows You Support Instead Of Anger
18:22 Yo Gotta Overcome The Fear To Love
19:16 Recommended Light Summer Reading: Wild Nights
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>> Register for Chiara's FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" (limited spots available)
 

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Communication is THE KEY in enhancing relationships and sexual experiences.
Drawing from our personal and professional experiences, we share practical tips on how you can initiate open dialogues about desires, needs, and fantasies with your partner.
As always we emphasise on creating a safe space for vulnerability, avoiding blame, and using creative alternative methods like scheduled talks, writing sexy emails to each other and, why not, listening to content together.
If you wonder how keep going at this seemingly utopian rate, this is it! Don't miss this episode.
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TIME STAMPS
02:36 Experience in communicating
04:03 What stops us from sharing dark secrets
06:09 Communicating is hard!
08:18 How to practice "exposing" yourself
09:50 We all have the same fantasy (and the same fear)
12:58 1. Let it flow
14:29 2. Quit the blame
16:07 3. Create a safe space for an intentional conversation
20:19 4. Listen to content together
24:21 5. "Please can you help me to understand..."
26:16 6. Show that you're listening - aka be present with them
27:50 7. Have an "exploratory" vs. a "goal-oriented" conversation
29:05 8. Writing sexy emails to each other is less confrontational
33:01 9. When in doubt, say what's on your mind
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Jealousy can serve as a useful tool in relationships when rooted in objective facts: it can be a sign of real issues, but also a reflection of deeper insecurities. How do you know?
In this episode we cover the various sides of jealousy, how to understand when it is keeping you safe, vs. when it’s signalling that there’s something deeper to look into – your body generally knows best.
We look at jealousy in the context of ENM couples, tho the same concepts can equally be applied to monogamous relationships.
The importance of a strong relationship foundation, open communication, and setting flexible ground rules are what will make you feel safe, confident, and ultimately set you free. Embracing jealousy can be a tool to deepen intimacy – believe it or not.
If you've ever struggled with jealousy or just want to understand it better - this episode is for you.
 
SHOWNOTES
01:47 I Am So Jealous!
04:55 How To Have Difficult Conversations With Your Partner
05:27 Keep The Dialogue Open And Ask With No Expectations
14:54 Embracing Jealousy Can Keep You Safe
16:00 Your Body Has All The Answers Inside
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The sensual surprise Chiara arranged for Will’s birthday (E7): Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify
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Have you ever dreamt of joining a threesome but never dared ask your partner? It’s a universal fantasy, and one that can become reality with trust and good communication.
In this episode, we share a very intimate experience where we pushed our boundaries further than ever before: for the first and only time in our life, Chiara is "lent" for the night as a Unicorn to Allie and her husband, while Will is away on an expedition.
He talks vulnerably about his internal struggle between a positively erotic idea and the negative social conditioning around masculinity and ownership that would mark this as incredibly wrong and dysfunctional. 
He also explains the strong bond he created with Allie’s man, the complete trust and clear communication that they have, highlighting the significance of male, brotherly energy and trust.
Our goal in sharing this story is to show you what’s possible when the bond in a couple is so strong, and complete trust has been achieved: we would have not been able to do this before our deep inner work and sexual deconditioning journey! 
Our intention is to purely inspire you to embrace sexual liberation by learning how clear communication, vulnerability and boundaries work Even within the boundaries of your monogamous relationship, there's plenty of things you can try out!
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02:56 What is a Unicorn
05:11 Trust, Desire, Fantasies And Open Communication
07:27 Healthy Management of Emotions: Thrill or Jealousy?
12:51 A Strog Secure Bond Can Take You To Depths You Can't Imagine
13:40 The Potential Risk of Damaging a Relationship
14:24 What It Feels Like to Join Another Couple as a Unicorn
14:57 Only When You Feel Safe You Can Relax
15:47 Conditioning: Shall We Listen To It?
17:01 Protect What's Precious
19:13 Giving vs. Taking Attitude in Bed
22:35 Is There Such A Thing As "Too Much"?
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Free resources + next steps for your sexual exploration:
Download the free guide: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”
Chiara’s FREE LIVE WORKSHOP on how to share secret fantasies: RESERVE YOUR SEAT

ALERT: FREE workshop on how to share secret fantasies (Live with Chiara): RESERVE YOUR SEAT
Are you “vanilla” or “spicy”? Are you into ENM? Are you not? Are you curious? How much should you share about this with your friends? And should you drag them into this exploration with you?
These are all themes we discuss in this episode, focusing on the importance of respecting the boundaries of people around you.
While we could not wish for deeper connections and the personal growth that we've gained from exploring ourselves the Ethical Non-Monogamy world (ENM), we understand this might not be necessarily everyone's cup of tea.
Our objective is, as always, to demystify society’s misconceptions, promoting open mindedness and sexual liberation, as this is THE SECRET recipe to a great sex life - whether you choose to have one or multiple partners.
If you’re looking for practical advice on how to navigate challenging but genuine conversations about your curiosity and interest in adding more people to your romantic situation, this is it!
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>> Link to our OG episode: how Will and Chiara got over conservative backgrounds and sailed for sexual liberation: Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify
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TIME STAMPS
01:12 Are Alternative Forms Of Relationships An Option? 
05:51 Be Yourself But Respect Others' Boundaries
08:39 The Highest Form Of Sexual Liberation
18:16 Build Strong Relationship Foundations and Create Deep Emotional Bonds
19:25 Coming Out Can Be A Challenge
24:21 Superficiality or Depth?
25:41 What You Didn't Know About Playing With Others As A Couple
27:14 What We Love About The Openness Of Relationships
27:53 How To Manage Jealousy
33:42 Should We Try To Fuck Our Friends Then?

Free resources + next steps for your sexual healing journey:
- Download the free guide: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”
- Chiara’s free live workshop "How To Share Your Secret Fantasies": book your spot here
 
For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com