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9 Effective Ways To Talk To Your Partner So They "Get You" | E12

Communication is THE KEY in enhancing relationships and sexual experiences.
Drawing from our personal and professional experiences, we share practical tips on how you can initiate open dialogues about desires, needs, and fantasies with your partner.
As always we emphasise on creating a safe space for vulnerability, avoiding blame, and using creative alternative methods like scheduled talks, writing sexy emails to each other and, why not, listening to content together.
If you wonder how keep going at this seemingly utopian rate, this is it! Don't miss this episode.
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TIME STAMPS
02:36 Experience in communicating
04:03 What stops us from sharing dark secrets
06:09 Communicating is hard!
08:18 How to practice "exposing" yourself
09:50 We all have the same fantasy (and the same fear)
12:58 1. Let it flow
14:29 2. Quit the blame
16:07 3. Create a safe space for an intentional conversation
20:19 4. Listen to content together
24:21 5. "Please can you help me to understand..."
26:16 6. Show that you're listening - aka be present with them
27:50 7. Have an "exploratory" vs. a "goal-oriented" conversation
29:05 8. Writing sexy emails to each other is less confrontational
33:01 9. When in doubt, say what's on your mind
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How Do I Deal With Jealousy in My Relationship? | E11

Jealousy can serve as a useful tool in relationships when rooted in objective facts: it can be a sign of real issues, but also a reflection of deeper insecurities. How do you know?
In this episode we cover the various sides of jealousy, how to understand when it is keeping you safe, vs. when it’s signalling that there’s something deeper to look into – your body generally knows best.
We look at jealousy in the context of ENM couples, tho the same concepts can equally be applied to monogamous relationships.
The importance of a strong relationship foundation, open communication, and setting flexible ground rules are what will make you feel safe, confident, and ultimately set you free. Embracing jealousy can be a tool to deepen intimacy – believe it or not.
If you've ever struggled with jealousy or just want to understand it better - this episode is for you.
 
SHOWNOTES
01:47 I Am So Jealous!
04:55 How To Have Difficult Conversations With Your Partner
05:27 Keep The Dialogue Open And Ask With No Expectations
14:54 Embracing Jealousy Can Keep You Safe
16:00 Your Body Has All The Answers Inside
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A Very Special Threesome (And How We Made It Happen) | E10

Today we are exploring more fantasies… 
Have you dreamt of joining a threesome but never dared ask your partner? It’s a universal fantasy, and one that can become reality with trust and good communication.
In this episode, we share a very intimate experience where we pushed our sexual boundaries further than ever before: for the first and only time in our life, Chiara is "lent" for the night as a Unicorn to Allie and her husband, while Will is away on an expedition.
He talks vulnerably about his internal struggle between a positively erotic idea and the negative social conditioning around masculinity and ownership that would mark this as incredibly wrong and dysfunctional. 
He also explains the strong bond he created with Allie’s man, the complete trust and clear communication that they have, highlighting the significance of male, brotherly energy and trust.
Our goal in sharing this story is to show you what’s possible when the bond in a couple is so strong, and complete trust has been achieved: we would have not been able to do this before our deep inner work and sexual deconditioning journey! 
Our intention is to purely inspire you to embrace sexual liberation by learning how clear communication, vulnerability and boundaries work Even within the boundaries of your monogamous relationship, there's plenty of things you can try out!
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02:57 What Is A Unicorn
04:29 A Bold Experiment: Lending My Girl for a Night
08:28 No Panties Date
10:11 A Buffet Of Toys
13:01 Reflecting On The Aftermath of an Erotic Adventure
14:23 What The Depth Of A Strong Bond Can Bring
15:12 The Potential Risks Of Damaging Relationships
15:56 Chiara's Side: What It Feels Like To Be A Unicorn
16:32 You Made Me Feel So Safe I Could Relax
17:22 The Mind Battling With Conditioning
22:43 You Need A Healthy Balance 
24:05 Testing Boundaries: Now We Know What We CAN do
24:58 Why We Do This
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How Kinky Are you? And, Should The World Know? | E9

Are you “vanilla” or “spicy”? Are you into ENM? Are you not? Are you curious? How much should you share about this with your friends? And should you drag them into this exploration with you?
These are all themes we discuss in this episode, focusing on the importance of respecting the boundaries of people around you.
While we could not wish for deeper connections and the personal growth that we've gained from exploring ourselves the Ethical Non-Monogamy world (ENM), we understand this might not be necessarily everyone's cup of tea.
Our objective is, as always, to demystify society’s misconceptions, promoting open mindedness and sexual liberation, as this is THE SECRET recipe to a great sex life - whether you choose to have one or multiple partners.
If you’re looking for practical advice on how to navigate challenging but genuine conversations about your curiosity and interest in adding more people to your romantic situation, this is it!
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TIME STAMPS
01:12 Are Alternative Forms Of Relationships An Option? 
05:51 Be Yourself But Respect Others' Boundaries
08:39 The Highest Form Of Sexual Liberation
18:16 Build Strong Relationship Foundations and Create Deep Emotional Bonds
19:25 Coming Out Can Be A Challenge
24:21 Superficiality or Depth?
25:41 What You Didn't Know About Playing With Others As A Couple
27:14 What We Love About The Openness Of Relationships
27:53 How To Manage Jealousy
33:42 Should We Try To Fuck Our Friends Then?
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GIFT! Practical free resources for your sexual exploration and healing journey | E8

Free resources + next steps for your sexual healing journey:
 
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“10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”
 
- Will & Chiara’s mini-course: “How to talk to your partner so they actually see you” - Join the waitlist
 
- Will & Chiara’s 1:1 monthly mentorship - Apply here
 
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How To 10x Your Sexual Encounters: A Sensual Birthday Surprise | E7

Have you ever experienced how sensuality and soft touch can 10x your sexual encounters? 
Listen to the sensual birthday surprise that Chiara arranged for her husband Will: beyond the sexiness of it all, you’ll learn how embracing sensuality, soft touch, and vulnerability can positively impact your intimacy - and your relationship overall.
Will describes his struggle to relax and surrender to receiving attention from his woman, and how releasing the pressure of a “goal” can unlock new depths of pleasure and connection.
You will also learn how understanding and embracing your desires can be a powerful way to strengthen your bond and experience intimacy in a way you never have before.
If you’ve felt blocked, ashamed of not knowing what to do, or unsatisfied in your sex life, you don’t want to miss this episode.
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SHOWNOTES
01:23 Beyond Sex As The Goal
02:17 Our Signature Sensuality Workshop
03:17 A Sensual Surprise: What Chiara Planned For Will's Birthday
07:45 Learning to Receive As A Man
10:54 The Dom/Sub Relationship Parallel
13:02 Mindfulness Technique: How To Drop Into The Receiver Mode
15:21 How To Receive By Staying In Your Masculine
19:48 Exploring Sensuality Beyond the Bedroom
20:17 Inside Our Sensuality Signature Workshop: What to Expect
24:29 The Fantasy Game: Learn To Verbalise Fantasies and Tell S*xy Stories
28:13 Sensuality Workshop: Join The Waitlist
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There’s No Shame In “Dirty” Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Taboos Into Passion | E6

Almost everyone carries with them a sexual fantasy they don’t dare to share. We hesitate to reveal our desires, even to a loving partner, out of shame or fear of judgment.
Some fantasies are scenes you might like to live out for real. Others will remain sexy movies that we play just for ourselves. Either way, fantasies are erotic fuel – and their power multiplies if you find courage to voice them.
In this super-sexy episode, we made ourselves vulnerable by sharing with each other some fantasies that we had never revealed before. We explore what makes it hard to express desires that our conditioning labels weird or dirty. We reflect on how liberating it feels to take that leap of faith and be rewarded with love.
We hope that listening to us might inspire you or trigger a spicy conversation or two with your partner.
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01:17 What Are The Collective The Unspoken Desires?
03:58 Fantasy 1: Being Taken
04:58 The Stigma Around Expressing Sexual Fantasies: It's Shameful!
05:37 Conditioning of Female S*xuality: Why Can't I Be A Slut
07:14 Fantasy 2: Group Play
08:14 70 Virgins or 7 Sluts?
10:49 We All Have A Masculine And Feminine Side
14:48 It's Important For A Woman To Feel Respected And In Control
15:06 Fantasy 3: Anonymous S*x In Public
19:17 Fantasy 4: Eye Contact with Stangers
19:43 Fantasy 5: Dirty Talk
21:01 Tip 1: use your voice
21:26 Tip 2: suspend the conditioning
22:10 Tip 3: set boundaries
22:39 Tip 4: eye contact game
23:10 Try our 10 prompts for free
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From Failed-Marriage Misery to Cosmic Sex: How we did it - via ENM and sex positive spaces | E5

This is our Origin Stories episode. Hear about the journeys that brought Allie, Will and Chiara from conservative childhoods, breakdowns, divorces and body shame to happiness and the strongest relationships of their lives.
We explain how we discovered ENM (ethical non-monogamy), survived novice mistakes and navigated the circus, but also how we learned to communicate to each other fearlessly, established trust and practiced standing up for ourselves, over and over again.
Perhaps you can’t picture yourself in an Eyes-Wide-Shut party - just yet or ever - and that’s fine, every relationship is beautiful and unique as is. We just want to use our unconventional and “a little out there” stories to help you explore what’s possible, providing ideas that can empower everybody.
Our recommendation is: take what resonates and works for you, and leave out the rest!
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TIME STAMPS
02:10 You Should Listen If...
02:33 How Will Started Exploring Unconventional Relationships
05:37 Chiara's Journey From Her Catholic Roots
08:21 From Fantasy To Reality
09:53 Always Communicate Clearly
11:37 Sexperts Night
13:15 Visiting Fun4Two Swingers Club
14:14 The Dark Room
15:58 The Hot Tub Incident
18:50 Allie's Journey From Small Town Girl
21:47 If We Cheat We Cheat Together
23:09 An Eyes Wide Shut Party Gone Sideways
27:30 Connecting With Others - Together - Could Strengthen Your Relationship
32:12 Play Parties Can Enhance Your Body Confidence
33:49 Tips On How To Test The Waters In Sex Positive Spaces
34:42 Is It for Everyone?
36:49 The Thrill of Exploration: Keeping the Spark Alive
41:15 What We Learnt
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Don’t Like The Way You Look? How To Reframe Body Shame And Body Image | E4

Body image is a very common problem for both men and women. Today we discuss how negative perceptions can impact intimacy and relationships, and how healing and personal growth can transform your sex life and deepen your connection.
Women in particular often feel negatively about their appearance due to societal standards, so Chiara vulnerably shares her journey back to loving her body.
We also explore how the lens of positive self-perception can boost sexual confidence: deeper sexiness comes from feeling confident and comfortable in one's skin, rather than conforming to external beauty standards.
For those that might be curious, you’ll also hear how non-monogamy and swinging can be platforms for receiving genuine feedback from others that don’t necessarily have a vested interest in just giving you a compliment - like a husband or friend would do.
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Want Better Sex? Discover How Increased Intimacy Will Deepen Your Connection E3

Would you prefer transactional sex or deeper, more intimate and sensual connections?
Today we share our personal journey of learning how to shift boundaries in the ENM and kinky world that we sometimes play in, and draw lessons for how intimacy and sensuality can supercharge connections - in all kinds of relationships.
We talk about how rare it is to find partners who share a similar emphasis on slow, intimate play, and we will provide a few tips on how to communicate  intimacy in your own relationship – monogamous or not - so that you can experience and nurture the power of focusing on the present moment to have mind blowing encounters.
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TIME STAMPS
02:31 Exploring Intimacy Beyond the Norm
05:16 Personal Boundaries and Evolving Relationships
07:44 The Power of Sensuality
17:55 The Impact of Trust and Respect in Sensual Encounters
22:48 The Essence of Sensuality: Being Present and Connected with Each Other
30:07 Navigating Safety and Comfort
36:56 Is He Worthy Of You?
38:11 Exploring the Paradox of Intimacy in ENM
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