Deeper Sex - The podcast about deeper connections and adventure

Why we’re turned on by taboos – and how to share your secret sexual desires | E22

Most of us were raised to believe that sexual fantasies are shameful - or just plain wrong. But what if those forbidden desires weren’t signs that something’s broken?
In this episode, we get to the bottom of why so many people are turned on by taboos, what that says about our emotional wiring, and we share practical strategies to discuss fantasies with your partner in a way that builds trust, safety and - more importantly - turns them on, rather than scares them off.
We also openly share some of own fantasies and struggles with taboos, as well as real-life stories from our clients, from threesomes and being dominated, to consensual non-consent, emphasising the significance of curiosity and trust in deepening sexual and emotional connections.
If there’s something you’ve secretly desired but never dared to say out loud, today’s episode is your “how to” permission slip to get curious and start that super-hot conversation that you’ve always wanted to have.
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TIME STAMPS
04:55 Your fantasies are actually normal
06:45 Why do we avoid talking about taboos?
13:58 Stay curious
17:03 Should I "request" or "propose" a kinky fantasy?
23:34 How to suggest a fantasy to your partner
24:39 Domination fantasy
27:16 Masculine and Feminine in all of us
30:03 Slutty and proud
31:36 Consensual non-consent fantasy
33:29 Rape play fantasy
36:26 Sex in public fantasy
36:58 Threesome fantasy
37:22 Dirty talking fantasy
38:34 10 prompts for deeper conversations
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Free resources + next steps for your sexual healing journey:
 
>> Download the free guide:
“10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”
 
>> Will & Chiara’s mini-course: “How to talk to your partner so they actually see you” - Join the waitlist
 
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Listen to E16 on masculine/feminine polarity in relationships: on Apple or Spotify
Listen to E19 on threesome fantasies: on Apple or Spotify
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Why your intimacy issues aren’t caused by your partner with Puja Lepp | E21

Most people think the key to better sex and exciting relationships is learning the right moves or finding "The One".
In an interview with one of our teachers, Will and I talk about why the patterns that hold you back in bed are the same ones that limit you in life. Why lack of intimacy isn’t about the other person, the sex positions, or your performance. And why feeling stuck, unseen, or frustrated in your relationship often has deeper roots that go far beyond your partner’s behaviour.
Puja Lepp is an internationally sought after psychotherapist, retreat leader, and teacher. For over 30 years she has been supporting people through deep emotional healing and transformation. She is the founder of the Primal Childhood Deconditioning retreat, a seven-day immersive process designed to help participants access and release unprocessed emotions, break free from old survival patterns, and reconnect with their authentic selves.
In this episode she shares the powerful truth we’ve seen again and again in our own journey and with our clients: you can’t separate your relationship struggles from your personal healing. But when you start doing the work on yourself—when you drop the mask and learn to show up fully—that’s when everything begins to change.
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TIME STAMPS
04:03 How Inner Work And Sexual Healing Are Deeply Connected
08:32 Is This Type Of Work For You? The Impact on Romantic Relationships
12:26 Is "working on yourself" really harder than "pretending" and wearing masks of perfection?
13:27 We All Fear Not Being Loved
16:13 We can't Force Our Partner To Do The Work
19:07 Why Feeling Safe Is Key For a Successful Relationship
19:42 How To Help Your Parter Feel Safe With You
22:38 "Doing The Work" Has a Domino Effect On Your Life as A Whole
23:46 Healing As a Lifestyle
24:12 Start By Changing 1% a Day
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Resources and next steps for your relationship healing journey:
 
>> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”
 
>> Join Puja’s retreat (co-hosted by Will and Chiara)
 
>> Mini-course “How to talk to your partner so they actually see you”: join the waitlist
 
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My partner doesn’t want sex. What should I do? | E20

To celebrate our podcast 1st anniversary, we address our clients’ most common questions in a live Q&A - from jealousy to sexual dynamics and open relationships.
Partner communication, establishing trust, and addressing underlying issues in a relationship are some of the things we are experts on, and our goal is to provide you with practical tips that will enhance your romantic connections.
If you feel even a little curious but shy, this is the episode for you.
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TIME STAMPS
01:38 Q1. My Partner Does Not Want To Have Sex: Should We Open The Relationship?
02:48 The Risks of Opening a Relationship
06:09 Work On Your Own Relationship First
07:49 Q2. How Do I Know If My Partner Is Into Kinks?
11:09 Q3. I am So Jealous! How Do I deal With Jealousy?
18:48 Embracing Jealousy Can Keep You Safe
19:51 Your Body Has All The Answers
21:53 Q4. Am I Bi-Curious?
25:46 Q5. How Can A Man Stay Confident During Sex When Another Man Is In The Room?
29:23 It's All About Boundaries
29:59 Sexual Conditioning: What Is (Not) Doing For You?
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Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) | 19

Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies - yet only few people have the courage to act on them. Is it something you should try, or is it better left as a fantasy?
In this episode, Will and Chiara explore the psychology behind group sex, the gap between fantasy and reality, and how to decide whether a threesome is right for you.
They go over the key conversations couples need to have before inviting a third person in, including the emotional impact, managing expectations, and how to navigate jealousy - often the biggest deal breaker.
They also explore how to test the waters with your partner - through dirty talk, fantasy role-play, or watching certain types of content together - to see if the idea is genuinely exciting or just intriguing in theory.
For those considering taking the next step, they share practical guidance on finding the right third, whether through dating apps, social circles, or more curated experiences like sex-positive events. They also explain the difference between FMF (two women, one man) and MFM (two men, one woman) threesomes, how to avoid common pitfalls, and why communication is essential at every stage.
Whether you're simply curious or seriously planning your adventure, this episode helps you explore your desires and possibility with clarity, awareness, compassion and respect for your relationship.
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TIME STAMPS
00:00 Why is a threesome the most common fantasy?03:29 Fantasy vs reality: why so many people regret it04:09 Is your relationship ready for this?07:21 Libido imbalances and why threesomes won’t fix them09:19 How to start the conversation with your partner11:25 Dirty talk as a way to explore the fantasy safely17:24 What to expect emotionally before, during, and after19:18 Finding a third: friends, strangers, or dating apps?23:25 The risks of inviting someone from your social circle26:00 Compersion: when watching your partner turns you on30:42 FMF vs MFM: which is right for you?33:00 Why many men find MFM threesomes easier35:42 What women should know about MFM dynamics37:45 Handling unexpected emotions in the moment44:21 If you’re single, should you join a couple?46:56 The biggest mistake couples make
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>> Want more content about sexual fantasies?
Don’t miss our previous episode on Apple or Spotify: There’s No Shame In Dirty Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Relationship
 
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Fighting with erections and performance anxiety? Here’s what you didn’t know you can do | E18

Will and Chiara tackle another taboo topic that many men (and their partners) struggle with, but rarely discuss openly: erections.
From performance anxiety to the pressure of always staying hard, they explore how much of the struggle is psychological rather than physical.
They discuss how shame, unrealistic expectations, and overthinking can interfere with arousal, and share practical ways to overcome these challenges. From breaking free of the traditional sex script to exploring the benefits of unconventional practices like non-ejaculation, they offer unusual yet groundbreaking perspectives on male sexual confidence.
You’ll also hear how women often feel responsible for their partner’s arousal, why they may misinterpret erection issues, and how couples can learn to have open, reassuring conversations that remove pressure.
Whether you’ve felt anxiety around performance or simply want a more relaxed, fulfilling intimate life, we guarantee this episode will change the way you think about erections and intimate connections.
 
TIME STAMPS 
00:00 When Did Your Dick Stop Working?
00:48 Let's Talk About Erections
02:11 The "Erectile Dysfunction" Label Does Not Serve You
03:07 Level 1 of "Mind-Fucking"
05:55 What About Cialis or Viagra?
08:40 More Pressure On The Man
09:44 You Naturally Have Things On Your Mind
11:28 The Mojo App for Erectile Dysfunction (20% off code: DEEPERSEX20)
12:44 Cock Rings Can Help With Performance
15:17 Do Women Like Cock Rings?
16:02 How To Talk About Cock Rings
18:43 Mind-Fucking Is The Problem
19:32 I'm Not Hard: How To Address The Elephant In The Room
20:26 10 Prompts To Start Difficult Conversations
21:02 Never Say "I'm Sorry If I'm Not Hard"
21:58 Have Some Fun With Sex Toys
22:46 Are You Saying I Shouldn't Ejaculate? Ever...?
23:25 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Increased Libido
24:35 Overcoming The Initial Resistance to Non-Ejaculation
24:58 Coming Is Not The Best Bit!
25:59 What Women Think Of Non-Ejaculation
26:25 The Pleasure Of Giving Pleasure
26:52 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Higher Sensitivity
27:42 Soft Dicks Are Nice!
28:46 Have You Tried A Tantric Massage?
30:37 The Secret of "No Goals" During Intercourse
32:57 The Importance Of Feeling Safe
34:19 Become A Better Lover
36:42 For Women: Tell Your Man You Like His Dick!
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How to get 10-minute long orgasms (for both men and women) | E17

This is a must-listen for both men and women looking to feel more, longer and better orgasms.
Today’s episode will completely transform your understanding of what “coming” is:
Did you know that there are many types of orgasms for women?
And did you know that men can orgasm without ejaculating… and vice versa?
Love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara challenge common beliefs around clitoral stimulation and vibrators, sharing their personal experience and tantric journey towards full body orgasms that can last for over 10 minutes – for both men and women.
Got your attention? Press play to learn a few tricks you can use in your next intimate encounter to give and experience a level of intimacy (and pleasure) that you didn’t think possible.
 
TIME STAMPS
01:00 Let's talk about orgasms
01:22 How many types of orgasms are there?
04:34 Female orgasms
07:12 The "spasm orgasm" is the enemy
08:17 Leave the clit alone!
09:55 Vibrators simply desensitize you
11:33 What are you doing to me?
13:52 How true presence gives a massively enhanced sexual experience
17:23 You DON'T NEED to give an orgasm to each other
18:50 The trick is to NOT THINK about what happens next
21:22 Best practices for men
21:36 The non-ejaculatory practice
22:45 How men can achieve longer, deeper orgasms
25:40 The secret to satisfy a woman in bed
26:18 Your sexual energy is the Life Force that drives your life
26:37 What is our primal need?
28:01 How you can support each other and both feel more pleasure
29:37 The secret club of pleasure
32:45 Remember to give yourself some slack
33:21 The 21 days challenge
34:16 Do this to cure premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction
35:46 What to do when he wants more sex than her
37:11 If you are her
37:28 If you are him
37:51 How you can better communicate your needs
40:14 I feel pain during intercourse
42:02 How to get a mind-blowing orgasm (recap)
42:24 1. Stop stimulating the clit
42:32 2. Stop ejaculating (or practice separating it from your orgasm)
42:56 3. Try the 21 days challenge
43:21 4. Drop the blaming
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Bring back the passion: how to restore masculine/feminine polarity when your relationship gets meh | E16

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Changing gears with Season 2, love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara explain in very simple terms the concept of relationship Polarity, and the importance of balancing the masculine and feminine energies that you input in a relationship - regardless of your gender.
They show how a polarity imbalance often leads to conflict, blaming, and general relationship unhappiness and unease.
In this episode, they offer insights and provide practical tips for how couples can bring harmony back to their relationships. By stepping back, showing vulnerability, and understanding each other's perspectives, couples can navigate their differences and bring back the “Lover’s Energy” that initially brought them together.
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TIME STAMPS
00:34 What We Prepared For You In Season 2
01:38 Let's Talk About Polarity in Relationships
02:31 What Women Blame Men For
03:38 What Men Blame Women For
06:27 Often Men Feel Powerless
10:36 Do We Both Have Masculine and Feminine Traits?
13:41 Both Partners Need To Contribute To The Masculine/Feminine Balance In The Couple
15:25 How Do We (Re)establish Polarity?
17:55 Restore The "Lover's" Energy
24:20 Why It's So Important To Show Vulnerability To Your Partner
25:06 What Goes Wrong In Relationships When You Hide Your Vulnerable Side
28:31 What He Needs To Do To Make Her Feel Safe
32:38 What Is Real Masculinity Today?
36:40 It's Difficult To "Just Receive"
38:13 Connect With Your Feminine Side (regardless of your gender)
43:00 How Do We Connect Deeper?
43:17 1. It's A Dance For Two
43:37 2. Listen To This With Your Partner
44:47 4. Acknowledge That All Emotions Are Valid
45:17 5. Temporarily Suspend Your Belief
45:38 6. Ask Yourself: What Am I Really Yearning For?
46:00 7. Make Space To Receive From Your Partner
46:44 8. Don't Apologise For Your Emotions
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Have Deeper Sex: stop fighting about sex, improve intimacy and heal from trauma instead (Season 1 Finale) |15

Guess what! We’ve been live for 6 months already, and we have a big surprise coming up for you!
We are closing out Season 1 of the Deeper Sex Podcast to come back with Season 2 and offer something even more exciting and useful to you and your lover, in and out of the bedroom.
We believe that sex should not be the driver of arguments and unhappiness for a couple. Nor should it be taboo. 
We have witnessed, tried and tested on our own skin how it can be used to heal from trauma, fears, and to grow. 
What's coming:
We are taking the intimacy and sacred sexuality practices that have completely revolutionised our way of loving, and are putting them into very simple practical terms for you so, that everyone can apply and practice them in their own bedroom.
If this is calling you, sign up for our waitlist to join our upcoming workshops.
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Meanwhile, don’t miss:
 
>> Our fav books
“50 Misconceptions Of Sex” by Alexa Vartman
“Wild Nights” by David Deida
(this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you)
 
>> Catch up on these episodes
 
13: How To Be Sexually “Open” Even If You’re Monogamous | Feeling Free
Learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner. Listen on Apple or Spotify.
 
6: There’s No Shame In “Dirty” Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Taboos into Passion
Learn about how to share sexual fantasies with your lover, overcoming fear, shame and taboos. Listen on Apple or Spotify
 
5: From Failed-Marriage Misery to Cosmic Sex: How we did it (via ENM and sex positive spaces)
Learn more about the hosts’ conservative backgrounds and how they “fell” into the amazing, sexually liberated world of Consensual Non Monogamy. Listen on Apple or Spotify
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TIME STAMPS
01:54 You Helped Us Grow
03:25 Deeper Sex Content In Season 2
04:16 Sex At the Intersection Between Sexuality, Curiosity, Healing And Personal Growth
05:25 A Surprise For You
07:52 10 Prompts To Start Deeper Conversations With Your Partner
08:15 Your Reading List to Get Ready For Season 2
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From "Bedroom Boredom" To "First-Date Chemistry" Sex: This Is How You Transform Your Relationship with Adriana Keefe | E14

Will and Chiara are interviewed by Human Design coach Adriana to explore how they transformed their lives through sexual exploration and liberation. 
They’ve made intimacy coaching their life’s purpose, because there’s so much fun and sex to be had in life, that everyone should be able to experience it! 
They talk about their journey of following their hearts and intuition, instead of conforming to what others expected. They highlight how their union is always of the utmost priority, above and beyond anything and anyone else.
On a spontaneous trip, they discovered the world of New Tantra and realized that that was “the code” - the language - for how they had been connecting all along. They found themselves into deeper and deeper sexual connections and an incredibly fulfilling sex life that massively influenced their business and their daily life… from miserable to super fun and exciting.
The secret to all this? Curiosity and… well, tune into the episode to find out!
Whether you’re a man or a woman wondering if there’s more to coupledom, or maybe bored in a sexless marriage, you too can go from an average relationship and a “middle-aged” sex life to an incredible connection with your partner, having mind-blowing, hours-long orgasmic marathons.
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To learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner, check out our episode on Apple or on Spotify.
And… don’t miss this book on the topic! “Wild Nights” by David Deida 
(this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you)
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To learn more about how you can work with and accept your body image, check out this episode on Apple or on Spotify
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TIME STAMPS
01:18 Meet Adriana, our Human Design Coach
02:26 Download Our Free Guide
03:02 How Will and Chiara Help Clients Have Better Romantic Relationships
06:22 How The Power of Intuition Got Chiara The Amazing Husband She Has
09:55 Why Intimacy Coaching
14:32 Why We Decided To Explore Ethical Non-Monogamy
18:59 This Could Be Your Community Too
21:29 The Deeper Sex Podcast In The Making
22:42 We Explored The Swinging Community But It Was Not For Us
24:04 From Swinging to New Tantra
25:26 Fantasy vs. Reality
25:50 Are You One Of The People We Can Help?
26:13 Who We Want To Help: Meet Our Friends John And Jane
34:45 Accepting Yourself And Your Body Image
40:43 How To Use Curiosity To Overcome Fear
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WHO IS WILL
Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.
 
WHO IS CHIARA
Chiara is an ICF certified professional Intimacy Coach with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and become truly "comfortable" rather than just "confident", so they can embark on more intimate and sensual adventures.
 
For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE.
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How To Be Sexually “Open” Even If You’re Monogamous | Feeling Free | E13

How open(-minded) are you, really? And how "free" do you feel?
Our biggest fear is not being loved. And fears keep us stuck in the comfort zone. But what happens when we suspend fear?
While reflecting on our peculiar summer, we explain how openness, curiosity, and feeling comfortable in your own body can bring you a deeper sense of connection and, ultimately, freedom.
There's a different flavour when you meet people who are willing to share themselves and their stories - who are unapologetically themselves and in their body.
If you're one of those people that feel stuck and just dream of being free (from whatever) but don't know how, you might want to listen to this. The whole conversation is a beautiful metaphor for how life can be lived.
!! Don’t miss our book recommendation at the end !!
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TIME STAMPS
1:32 Our Mission Is To Help People Open To Love
03:04 A Music Festival As An Open Love Experience
03:50 Openness + Nakedness = Freedom
07:11 What You Wouldn't Expect About Being Naked
08:51 Feeling Comfortable vs. Feeling Confident
09:46 It's Not About You, It's About Them
13:10 You Can Be Monogamously Open
15:23 When Your Husband Shows You Support Instead Of Anger
18:22 Yo Gotta Overcome The Fear To Love
19:16 Recommended Light Summer Reading: Wild Nights
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>> Recommended book: “Wild Nights” by David Deida 
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